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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2019 11:18:53 GMT -5
My trip to Hawaii cut short due to my Girlfriend got a call from her boss asking her to come home and I'm kind of mad about it and disappointed too. It's a long story and I just don't like sharing it. With the caveat that I don't know your girlfriend's job or business, I am stunned at the sheer audacity of a boss to call en employee back from vacation unless said employee is nothing short of an absolutely irreplaceable, one-of-a-kind brain surgeon or something. Sorry to hear your vacation is cut short. She handles insurance claims for a business and its handled in a private matter that's needs her attention of which bothers me a lot and I just don't understand the nature of her job assignment and it's bothers me. She can't disclose any of it because most of her work is confidential because it's part legal/business/proprietary and it's customer driven and she has to come back from vacation and the customer will pay for her costs including mine and that bothers me. This is the best answer that I can give you and I really don't know her job that well.
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Post by impulse on Dec 11, 2019 11:29:50 GMT -5
With the caveat that I don't know your girlfriend's job or business, I am stunned at the sheer audacity of a boss to call en employee back from vacation unless said employee is nothing short of an absolutely irreplaceable, one-of-a-kind brain surgeon or something. Sorry to hear your vacation is cut short. She handles insurance claims for a business and its handled in a private matter that's needs her attention of which bothers me a lot and I just don't understand the nature of her job assignment and it's bothers me. She can't disclose any of it because most of her work is confidential because it's part legal/business/proprietary and it's customer driven and she has to come back from vacation and the customer will pay for her costs including mine and that bothers me. This is the best answer that I can give you and I really don't know her job that well. Wow, that sounds pretty serious. At least they are reimbursing you, too. I wonder if they can throw in a pain in the ass fee for costing you the enjoyment of your trip...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2019 12:00:32 GMT -5
She handles insurance claims for a business and its handled in a private matter that's needs her attention of which bothers me a lot and I just don't understand the nature of her job assignment and it's bothers me. She can't disclose any of it because most of her work is confidential because it's part legal/business/proprietary and it's customer driven and she has to come back from vacation and the customer will pay for her costs including mine and that bothers me. This is the best answer that I can give you and I really don't know her job that well. Wow, that sounds pretty serious. At least they are reimbursing you, too. I wonder if they can throw in a pain in the ass fee for costing you the enjoyment of your trip... I have submitted a bill of $1200 to cover cost of ruining our vacation ... the monies will be payable to me.
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Dec 11, 2019 12:50:04 GMT -5
Well I was supposed to be in trial today, but we settled it as the jury was watching the juror orientation film. Was a decent deal for my client. Got a case in a neighboring county dismissed and the deal is for probation. No way he was going to win one trial, much less two. So now I can actually get some work done.
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Post by wickedmountain on Dec 16, 2019 0:05:50 GMT -5
Hi Everyone , First Christmas without my dad coming up is going to be hard me and mom are not even sure if we will bother with Christmas dinner or not we didn't have a thanksgiving meal because schedules got mixed up .
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Post by Confessor on Dec 16, 2019 0:55:00 GMT -5
Hi Everyone , First Christmas without my dad coming up is going to be hard me and mom are not even sure if we will bother with Christmas dinner or not we didn't have a thanksgiving meal because schedules got mixed up . I rememeber that my first Xmas without my Dad was shaping up to be a bit like that. After such a loss I think it's easy and quite natural for some people to feel as if nothing matters anymore...like, f**k it! Why bother? But the truth is that, actually, it matters more now that your Dad is gone. You and your Mum are still alive and are here for each other, and that's worth a lot. You should try your best to have a good Christmas together. It won't be easy...you'll miss your Dad like crazy, of course, but family is important, time is precious, and none of us are getting any younger. Make the most of every moment that you and your Mum can have together. I'm sure that your Dad would've wanted that.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2019 1:14:43 GMT -5
Hi Everyone , First Christmas without my dad coming up is going to be hard me and mom are not even sure if we will bother with Christmas dinner or not we didn't have a thanksgiving meal because schedules got mixed up . The first Christmas without my dad was the hardest (it was the 20th anniversary of his death last month). It was even harder on my mom than it was on me. Memories of your father will always feature in the holiday celebrations, and the first year those memories are hard because they are still entangled with the sense of loss, but later you will treasure those memories, especially at these times of year. You'll remember the good times and the traditions you had, and it will make him feel present even when he is not. What is important though, is that you start to make new memories and start new traditions with the people who are still there (your mom in this case) so those will also always be with you. It will feel different (and likely strange and there may even be some guilt that you are trying to enjoy yourself when you are still feeling the loss but that makes it even more important to do it), so maybe try something a bit different this year (a new place to go, visit or invite different friends or family to spend the day with, try a new course or entree for the meal, a new decoration, a new movie to watch together, whatever), something not wrapped up in loss and the past, but something new that has a chance of being a treasured memory moving forward. It won't be easy, it never is, but the things that are worthwhile are rarely easy. Do something that reminds you and your mom that you still have each other and the holiday can still be your time together. -M
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Post by beccabear67 on Dec 16, 2019 1:18:28 GMT -5
Hi Everyone , First Christmas without my dad coming up is going to be hard me and mom are not even sure if we will bother with Christmas dinner or not we didn't have a thanksgiving meal because schedules got mixed up . I have no idea how I'll feel about Christmas if I make it to the time where both my parents are gone. I'm afraid I will probably feel very uninterested, but if there is anyone who does want it I will do my best to help with it. I was thinking of my Gran who would bring the Christmas pudding in jars each year and how some years I'd skip having any. Now I'd love to have her and her pudding around again. She was around without it for a few though, she was in a wheelchair for quite awhile and in a decent care home we all visited but would come out for family events. It still seems like something if you're together for awhile is better than nothing.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2019 6:49:44 GMT -5
Hi Everyone , First Christmas without my dad coming up is going to be hard me and mom are not even sure if we will bother with Christmas dinner or not we didn't have a thanksgiving meal because schedules got mixed up . Making time together with your Mom is very important during the Holidays ... and I would make it an effort together for a meal during holidays - December 24th to New Year's Day and it's can be anymeal you can (Breakfast, Brunch, Lunch, and Dinner too) and that's should be your top priorities and do something that you both like to do.
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Post by The Captain on Dec 16, 2019 8:22:18 GMT -5
Hi Everyone , First Christmas without my dad coming up is going to be hard me and mom are not even sure if we will bother with Christmas dinner or not we didn't have a thanksgiving meal because schedules got mixed up . I echo everyone else's sentiments in that you should spend time with your Mom, and other family, in some meaningful way over the holidays. Thankfully, both of my parents are still with us, but my wife lost both of hers within a two-year span a little over a decade ago. This time of year is still hard for her, but she has taken over as "Mom" for her three older brothers, as we host a Christmas party for them and their spouses (nothing formal, just a bunch of appetizers, some drinks, and the same stories year after year). Even though she misses her parents like crazy, it's the gathering of the remaining family and the remembrances of the good times that help them all get through it. This time of year is for family, and even though your Dad isn't with you any longer, your Mom is going to need you and your strength to help her get through this particular season, and you can lean on her to help you through it as well.
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Post by wickedmountain on Dec 17, 2019 7:35:59 GMT -5
Thanks Everyone I appreciate you all very much I'm glad we are all friends Reading what you all said, has me thinking of some ideas on what me and my mom will do for Christmas Dinner thank you all so much.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2019 10:45:48 GMT -5
^ I can't tell you what to do, can only share that for me?
Mom passed just after the Holidays. . so we had almost a full year to get ourselves ready for it.
we had an easier time, I suspect, because she died on 1/26/17, and we left for a cruise on 2/17/17. I was gutted and almost backed out of the trip.. but one of the last things she told us was to *not* cancel the cruise. (and I told her she better not die, since we were going anyways.. . and then she died about a week later).
we turned the cruise into a memorial - it was a huge party of course (we went with a large group), but a close friend had made us pins of Mom, and I wore one every day . . so she was with me wherever we went and whatever we did during the 10 day cruise.
that really helped me process things, as I knew she wanted me to continue enjoying my life, even tho I was hurting.
so. . yeah. . . everyone is going to be different, but my 2cents would be try NOT to dwell on who's missing, and instead celebrate the memory, and that you are still here.
hugs, bert
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Post by beccabear67 on Dec 17, 2019 12:53:33 GMT -5
I may be a.w.o.l. if my bursitis in my left arm gets worse. It was flared up yesterday and bad at night. When it's really inflamed I just can't use the arm at all for a couple of days or so. I can catch-up after with the Christmas thread.
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Post by EdoBosnar on Dec 17, 2019 13:42:55 GMT -5
I may be a.w.o.l. if my bursitis in my left arm gets worse. It was flared up yesterday and bad at night. When it's really inflamed I just can't use the arm at all for a couple of days or so. I can catch-up after with the Christmas thread. Ouch, that sucks. Take care of yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2019 13:55:37 GMT -5
Damn! Take care, Beccabear67!
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